Anybody who has read my stuff knows what I mean when I say I Don’t Care. And I gotta tell ya, I don’t care about gay and lesbian marriage. You shouldn’t (mustn’t even) legislate, manipulate, or otherwise manage the love of one PERSON for another.
There is an old 1960’s argument that says it makes more sense to let children watch two adults make love than let them watch two adults kill each other. Let’s go a step farther and say I would rather they watch two homosexuals than witness brutality and inhuman killing. Love should not be abridged by dogma, bigotry or prejudice.
If you are wondering, yes, I am somewhat homophobic in that I have no desire to watch or even know the sexual practices of any gay man. I am strictly heterosexual. This should not be interpreted as a condemnation or even dislike of gay men. I fully support the initiative of gays and lesbians to not only live together, but to be wed as any other couple in both civil and spiritual union.
Much like each in their time, women and African Americans fought against a rigid cultural bias that cast them in less than equal light. Gays and lesbians are now fighting for their equal rights in a society that is rapidly moving in their direction. It’s been said that society will fight the good fight against anything that offends the status quo or the moral fiber that underpins the majority of its citizens; but only while it is perceived to be the respectable thing to do.
Human sexuality, from the view point of morality, is rapidly becoming an issue that does not transfix us to the wall as it once did. What you do in your own home and with whom is, more than ever, perceived to be a matter of personal privacy and choice. When state, church, and family can no longer discriminate in an effective and “decent” way, the issue will be relegated to the scrap heap of bad ideas and ignoble persecutions. To be sure, such narrow minded judgments and bigotry will continue to exist in the stony hearts of those who would rather hate than love, but in turn, their intolerance will be their undoing.
I salute my home state of California and the 9th circuit court for striking down proposition 8. It made little sense and only served to discriminate against gays and lesbians. It may come to pass that this decision is over-turned, but the fight will continue. With 51 percent of the population favoring gay marriage and 70 percent under the age of 35 favoring marriage rights for gays and lesbians, the writing is on the wall. Every year that goes by sees the hidebound middle-aged and senior population opinion and influence dwindle into insignificance.
As a country we all need to open our minds and accept new ideas, embrace the manifest direction of popular will and …get on with life. Women and men are equal under the law, Caucasians and African Americans are equal, and now it’s time we make a space for gays and lesbians in the light of equality and justice. In the words of Crosby, Stills and Nash: “…love the one you’re with.”
The video by Sundroid and the song “Love the One You’re With” by Crosby, Stills, and Nash. All other rights reserved.
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At first, I was vaguely ambivalent over the idea of gay marriage. It took me a while to come to the conclusion of “why the hell not?”. It wasn’t out of anything but ignorance on my part. I have always had gay and lesbian friends, but I more or less thought “why get the legality involved?”. But then I came of age during the hippie era and people lived together without getting married for the most part in San Francisco during that time.
Time past, I examined my lack of interest and realized I was being stupid. Why shouldn’t gay people have the same rights as straight people? Of course they should. The Mormon Church funded a huge and expensive “Defeat Prop 8″ campaign and the were successful. I was horrified that California, my beautiful bastion of Liberal attitudes let this measure go down in defeat.
I’m not religious. I don’t understand people use use religion to justify their own slanted views on morality. If you don’t approve of gay marriage, then don’t get gay married. But don’t legislate what is appropriate for other people who simply want equal rights under the law.
Well said. As a heterophobic male, I too have no desire to see or know the sexual practices of two opposite sex people, but I support them doing whatever they want in the privacy of their own homes. Just don’t push it on me.
I don’t condemn nor do I condone homosexuality. To be honest, it’s none of my business what two consenting adults want to do. Religiously, we’re not allowed to judge others because only God judges… and when we judge others what we’re really saying is that we’re above being human and we equate ourselves with The Divine – which is a major sin in Islam (of course try telling people that, they’re so clueless).
So in many ways, you’re not the only one who “doesn’t care”
What people do is their business – as long as they don’t hurt anyone in the process.
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Its seems to be the church that has a real big issue with this. I’ve even heard some teenagers from religious families preaching that it’s “wrong” to be gay but like you state, most young people are in favour by 70% so the writing’s on the wall.
BTW – can’t stop singing that song now!
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Amen and pass the potatoes! It is neither our right or our place to legislate morality issues. I would like to see the #’s on how much money is spent on this argument day after day and year after year, when the impact means absolutely nothing to the state of our government and economy.
Do people honestly believe that allowing homosexual couples to marry will somehow worsen the morality problems facing our country? Has it occurred to them that perhaps allowing people to celebrate their relationship in the legally binding institution we call marriage might strengthen the bond and lessen the very problems those against it rail against?
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